What Women Want

If you know what women want, you can rule!

What Women Want, 2000 

What do women want?   I was going through another movie spree the other day and happened upon Julia Roberts and Richard Gere, together again, in Runaway Bride.   I don't know what it is about those two, but they have a charisma between them that makes you believe they are meant for each other.   I've seen the movie a few times over the years but for the first time I heard this line:

“You want a man who’ll lead you down the beach with his hand over your eyes, just so you can discover the feel of sand under your feet. You want a guy that’ll wake you up at dawn. He’s just bursting to talk to you, can’t wait another minute just to find out what you’ll say. Am I right?”

Who doesn't want that??   We hear love songs on the radio all the time with lyrics sung by men who pour their hearts out professing their love for a woman who threw them away.  Bruno Mars took the hearts of women everywhere with his song, "Just the Way You Are".  Do men really feel this way, ever? 

 

When I see your face
There's not a thing that I would change
'Cause you're amazing
Just the way you are

And when you smile
The whole world stops and stares for a while
'Cause girl, you're amazing
Just the way you are

Of course we want to feel like we're amazing and loved just the way we are.  Well I am not an expert on ALL women, but I can tell you from my experience there are at least 5 things that are a must.  All of them are important.  They cannot be listed in order of importance because, in my mind, they must all be there for success:

1.  A sense of humor!   To me, laughing and having fun is the most important trait.   Who wants to be with a guy who complains all the time.  Or one who gets angry whenever things don't go his way.  Nope, for me, laughing and taking it easy go hand in hand.

2.  Intelligence!  Can you spell?   Can you carry on a conversation in a variety of topics?  Are you open minded and willing to discuss or listen to just about anything?  It is imperative a man can discuss something more than sports and fishing.

3.  Healthy!   Taking care of yourself is important.   When a man eats right, exercises and noticeably cares about his appearance, it shows that he has self worth and confidence in himself.   Now, there is a fine line between self confidence and arrogance.   Arrogance is a total turn off.   But a man who carries himself with strength and power is very attractive.  Be stronger than me!!!

4.  Fun!   Now this could be a sub bullet to a sense of humor, but I have found men who have a sense of humor but don't really know how to have fun.  Being adventurous and willing to discover new things is a trait that requires the ability to think outside your box.  Being fun means getting out of your routine and doing something usual.  Discovering new cultures and places or just sitting and watching people can be fun.   Fun... definitely a necessity.

5.  Available!   What do I mean by 'available'?  I mean present... in the moment.   Ready and able to share.  Emotionally, physically and mentally available.  This means the past baggage must be checked at the door and allow the present moment to be assessed real time.   Assumptions and stereotyping are big No-Nos!  Assess after discovery. 

There are other small things that are attractive and nice to have, but I truly believe the five listed above are required. 

I recently looked up the five languages of love just to familiarize myself with them again.  I think I've written on it before but its always good to understand how you give and receive love.  Gary Chapman identified the five love languages and has provided a quiz to allow you to discover yours.  Go to: http://www.5lovelanguages.com/.  The five languages consist of Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time and Physical Touch.  I am a solid Quality Time person.  Life is short and the people in our lives are what make life worth living.   To me, getting to know someone and truly appreciating who they are is the ultimate joy.  I guess that's what I want in return.  So, while we may have different ways of showing it, women just want to be loved for who they are.  Bruno Mars hit it on the head.  We want to be recognized as someone who is AMAZING... just the way we are.