Casual No More....

Well, I had a completely different topic to discuss, but decided I would share my week with you instead. 

I have been seeing someone for the last few months.  Because he lives several states away, we have only been able to see each other once a month.  Between visits we have talked and emailed, texted, instant messaged, etc several times per day.  The problem is that the friendship started out as very casual and neither of us expected anything serious to come out of it.

However, as life sometimes goes, as information flows and the onion begins to peel back, original intentions change... morph into something else.   It turns out this guy is very cool.   He actually

I am a feminist.... who wants a man?

There's been a lot of discussion lately on the changing men in our country.  I've linked to some articles below for you.  I thought I'd give you some of my thoughts on this.  

First I had to define 'feminist'.   At it's basic definition a feminist is one who supports equality of women in social, political and work place settings.   I am a full supporter of this!   However, I do not support the feminist movement that supports the feminization of men and the masculinization of women.   The crosswalk article below discusses the masses of men who have been raised in divorced families leaving many boys to be raised solely by women basically removing the male role model from his childhood.   While I agree that this has caused some 'feeling' men to emerge into society, I do not believe it is the major culprit.  

We women have been striving so long and hard to become equal to men that we have overstepped our

Choices: Stay, Cheat, Go?

Today's entry discusses marriage, affairs and divorce.  It seems everyone I have talked to are struggling with the same issue.  All are in long term marriages.  All have found someone who has piqued their interest and all are questioning whether they should stay in the marriage, have a fling or leave the marriage.   This is some pretty tough stuff!   But I guess I have been in the right place at the right time because I have been asked my opinion on four, yes FOUR separate occasions just this week!  

It is a long entry, but I hope you all get something out of it.   Please comment your opinion or situation.   We are all in this together and the more information we have to figure this stuff out, the better!  Read on....

He should be shot!

Today, I was talking with, Adam, who is recently separated and entering the dating scene after a 16 year marriage.  He has been meeting women on match.com and has recently been seeing a woman named Karen.   She, too, is newly separated after a 13 year marriage.  Adam and Karen have been talking and texting regularly and have been out together a few times.  Adam has reported that she is witty, friendly and fun to hang out with.   Because their jobs and children come first, scheduling time together has been difficult.   In fact, in the three months since they met, I believe they have only been on three dates.